I, too often, make the mistake of giving people too much credit.
— Andy Goh (@andygoh) June 22, 2016
I posted this tweet a couple of days ago without giving a whole lot of thought as to how it would be interpreted (world’s greatest twitter user, I know). I had a few people ask me about it, so I thought I’d talk about it long form.
First off, this wasn’t directed at anyone or anything in particular. I may not be the world’s greatest twitter user, but I’m not going to cook beef on the platform. No, rather than subtweet someone, I’ll just got holla at them in person.
Instead, this was the result of one of those random moments where I’m not busy enough to get out of my own head, and let the swirling, eclectic mix of thoughts marinate themselves into my internal monologue.
What this tweet comes down to is self-love.
Too often, I end up selling myself short. I’ll compare myself, or my work, to that of others around me. Too often, again, I’ll give more credence to what others are doing and not give myself enough. I end up elevating other people while bringing myself down at the same time.
I also have ridiculously high standards for myself, and whenever my work falls anywhere short of that, I consider it garbage, cut my losses and move on. I shudder to think of how many great ideas and projects I’ve abandoned over the years simply because they didn’t meet some arbitrary benchmark and I wasn’t willing to see them through.
“I’m not that good…”
“Their shit is way better…”
“I could never do that…”
“They deserve it, look at what they did…”
While maybe true on occasion, the older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve realized that it just isn’t the case more often than not. I am good. My shit is better. I can do that. I deserve it, look what I did. At this point, I’ve built a body of work that backs up that feeling. Confidence begets confidence, and a stronger cycle can and should be born.
Up until this point, I haven’t given myself the self love that I deserve and require. Forgiveness and comfort in one’s own identity is something that I’ve always struggled with. That’s why it’s so important for me to be good to myself moving forward. Through goals, meditation and mindfulness, yoga and awesome friends, I hope I can find the courage to love myself while also respecting those around me.
So don’t sweat it. I wasn’t talking about you. I’m only trying to bring a better balance and harmony into my world and yours. We deserve it.
Because we are good.
Our shit is better.
We can do it.
We deserve it, look what we did and can do.